Gifted Children – 3 Tips To Living With Them

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I like the advice in this article, but remember – all kids are different. – S

Tip 1 – Be Gentle

Be gentle with your gifted child. These children are often more sensitive. They are extra sensitive both physically and emotionally. Because your child can be advanced in some areas beyond their years it’s easy to expect more in areas where they are not advanced. This can lead to conflicts. So be aware of their sensitivities by observing them and learning where you need to be extra gentle.

Tip 2 – Gifted Children Tend to be Perfectionists

Since gifted kids often have the tendency to be perfectionists it’s important to be aware of this in your child. Their desire to do it right can cause them to give up before they start. If they feel they can’t do it perfectly then they don’t want to even try. I have seen this multiple times with my daughter.

It is important to take the time to work with your child and help them understand that messing up or not being perfect is normal, and it’s how we learn. You can explain that failure is failing to learn from our mistakes. You can share stories of people like Edison had to try multiple different ideas before he got the light bulb to work.

Tip 3 – Realize it’s Hard For Gifted Children to Admit Wrong

Another trait that many gifted kids have is that they find it very difficult to admit they are wrong. Due to their strong perfectionism they expect to be right. And due to their above average intellectual abilities. As the father of a gifted daughter it is not always easy to know how to deal with her giftedness. However there are three tips I’d like to share that have helped me interact with my daughter better.s they usually are right. So when they are wrong it can be devastating and they do not want to admit it.

By being aware of this tendency in your child you can be more gentle in how you deal with their mistakes and wrongs. Just simply point out the error and then let them know that we all make mistakes. Then move on. Even if they do not fully acknowledge the mistake, they know they were wrong.

By not making a big deal out of the situation you will help preserve their sensitive personality while still letting them know that they were wrong. Later when they are not worked up over the error then you might sit and gently discuss with them that being able to admit wrong is a good thing. No one is perfect and being able to admit mistakes is part of life.

These three tips can help you better understand and interact with the gifted children in your life. Being sensitive to the needs of other people is also a good quality to enhance in our own lives.

 

I encourage you to visit the Tootlee website today. You will discover the stories of some amazing gifted children and what they are accomplishing. These amazing kids have lots to offer the world.

 

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Gifted Children

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What happens when you’re the only sane person in a world of crazy people? This is the conundrum gifted children, indigo children, crystal children face.

Gifted with intelligence, wisdom, creativity and power beyond belief but without a proper role model in sight, with no-one to even tell them that they are gifted and not sick or broken. They may be misunderstood by their family, their society, and everyone they know. They are the leaders of the new consciousness, yet they may be treated like fools and slaves until they forget themselves. Are they gifted or are they cursed?

Being more in tune with reality and life itself causes harmony between you and others like you. But it simultaneously means you’re out of sync with crazy people, the maniacs that make up more than 99% of the population.

Indigo children are “gifted” with the inability to be inauthentic, for instance. Honesty is a wonderful, pure, perfect thing – but it won’t get you far in the social game most people play. In school, they tend to be marginalised or bullied.

These gifted children tend to receive a love/hate treatment from society. On the one hand, they are amazing people gifted with lots of positive character traits, including fairness, kindness and oftentimes an outrageous sense of humour. On the other hand, they are revolutionaries and can’t stand to see the darkness that goes on around them. They don’t accept the standard paradigms just because everyone else does. That logic isn’t valid for an indigo child.

Indigo children have a different perspective. Through their gifted eyes they see a world where everyone does things, or fails to do things, because society accepts or rejects them for it. And it is their curse to be gifted with the inability to go along with this.

The bus stops at our gifted children. This pattern goes no further. In a world where the emperor has no clothes, gifted children, indigo children are the first and only ones to point this out.

Their destiny is either to become the greatest leaders this world has ever seen, or to be burnt at the stake.

Lightworkers’ Connection: I help those who walk the less travelled path feel strengthened and secure in their journey.

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The Joys and Challenges of Gifted Children

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Recently, I was reading a blog post on Gifted Children. This Mom had a unique perspective on just what it takes to raise a gifted child (being that all 3 of hers were). To her, having a gifted child, was not much different than having a special needs child. In a way, I can see her point. There are definitely challenges in motivating the exceptionally smart children.

Jennifer, the author of the blog I was reading says, “In my observation, there are Really Smart Kids, and there are Gifted Kids – and the parents of the Really Smart Kids have the better end of the deal. True giftedness not only involves intelligence, but thinking so outside the box that the box is not even recognizable. Gifted kids think differently, learn differently, relate to people differently. They are often misunderstood by teachers and peers, and they often struggle with fitting in and feeling accepted. There is a lovely little term called “asynchronous development” that makes life oh-so-interesting: the gifted child may have the intelligence of one many years older, but his body, his maturity and his emotions are still at his biological age – or younger.”

Grace
Grace was a child with a huge vocabulary before most of the children her age were even talking in sentences. People commented all the time on how grown up she sounded because of this fact. When she was 3, she started reading. I didn’t feel like I had done anything special to get her to that point. She just came to me one day and said, “Mommy, I want to read this book to you.” I was blown away that she was able to read me the entire book, only needing help with one or two words!

I also knew at a very early age that she had a real talent for music. As an infant, I worked at a child care center almost an hour away. She came with me every day. On our commutes, she would sit in her car seat, trying to match pitches that I would sing to her. In her toddler years, she could hear a song one or two times, and know every word to the song. Before she was even walking, she’d be standing at the coffee table, tapping her feet to the rhythm of music. I knew I was going to have a very smart little girl with some huge talents!

We had always joked that we were NOT going to teach her to tie her shoes. After all, she needed to be able to learn SOMETHING in Kindergarten! Surprisingly, tying ended up being something she struggled with. In Kindergarten, she was already reading at about a 2nd grade reading level. She was identified as “Gifted”, and put into a special program with other advanced readers. I was so glad she was put into that program. Up until that point, I wondered why I even bothered to send her to Kindergarten. Sure, she benefited socially, but academically, she was bored. The gifted teacher she worked with did a great job in challenging her to read more carefully, and gave her tips to push learning to the next level. She has continued to work with this teacher several times a year for the past several years. Now that she is a 4th grader, she is preparing for the statewide Battle of the Books. She is having a hard time getting motivated to read the books because, as she says, the books on the list are too easy.

While she is a very smart girl, she lacks some (OK, a lot) in the area of self-motivation. Things come so easy to her, that she doesn’t want to take the time to work at them. The idea of doing extra, just ’cause? Not in her line of thinking! Here’s an example: Grace has been in dance since she was 3. This year, she was invited to join the competition dance group. I’m so proud of her! At the same time, I get so frustrated watching her. I know she can do the moves, and I know she has room for improvement. She just doesn’t push herself!

Sadly, I can’t get too upset with her, because I was the same way! When I was in 5th or 6th grade, I was identified as gifted. I was in a program called “High Potential.” I was pulled out with some other children. I may have been a bit advanced in some areas, but I never quite felt like I belonged in that group. I was terrible at math, and because I struggled in that one area, I didn’t think I was as smart as the other kids in the group. Like my daughter, I didn’t push myself. I didn’t try at anything quite as hard as I could have. I went through school in advanced classes, and most of it was easy (though, history had a lot of numbers, so it wasn’t my strongest area). I couldn’t understand kids who struggled to read. Also, I played the flute. It came fairly easy to me (granted, if I had practiced, I probably would have been much better). I got by on my ability alone. I was in dance classes from 2nd grade through 10th grade. I danced at the competitive level for a couple of years, until I hurt my knee in 9th or 10th grade. Looking back, I wish I would have pushed myself harder. Instead of just getting by all those years, I wish I would have taken everything to the next level and just TRIED. I can only imagine where my music, dance, and even academics might have gone!

Michael
Michael is a Kindergartner. He began reading last spring. I was so excited, I tried to push him. He shut down and decided to quit reading altogether. His interest is back in reading these days. His teacher informed me just today that he is among the Top 10 Readers in all the kindergarten classes at his school. Problem is, he won’t read for anyone else except me. He refused to read for the teacher who wanted to “test” his ability in order to pull him out for a special guided reading group. His teacher opted not to force him, for fear he would shut down. I think that was a good choice – for now. My challenge now is to figure out how to build his confidence so that he can realize his true ability.

Going back to the blog that got me on this topic for a second. Jennifer says that it is important for parents to advocate for their children. We need to work with teachers to help our children, and to ensure they are continually challenged. On this point, I agree 100%. It was a struggle for me and it is a struggle for both of my kids who seem to be on the advanced end of the spectrum. Not only is it important to make sure our kids are challenged, it is also important to help them stay motivated (as they may struggle with motivating themselves). Our children who are either truly gifted, or just really smart, may have a hard time fitting in with their “average” peers. We need to not only advocate for them with their teachers, but we also need to support them in their struggles. The same is true with any child. It is part of our duty as parents.

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